We have so many needs that we require fulfilling for our survival in lives. Without these requirements, our existence has no meaning.
For example, if we cannot manage to procure the basic needs of food, clothes, and shelter, we suffer and like to terminate our existence. Out of all the needs, the three pairs of paradoxical needs drive the precious human life.
They are classified as certainty and uncertainty, individuality and connectedness and then having and giving. Most of us get sandwiched in between these three pairs of needs because when one set of need gets satisfied, the other set gets started. When you wish to serve the next need, you find the former one remains unattended.
Let us now examine these three sets of paradoxical needs. The first paradox is certainty which provides us an orderly situation in life. Against this, uncertainty gives us less growth. Both systematic perspective and growth are critical for balancing the life.
And when you live the life, mostly in a balanced way, you ensure its completeness.
Though practically it may not be possible fully, even if you achieve ninety percent, you can manage the proper integrity of your life. It is the first paradox of your life, and that is why you require certainty. And with this mindset, you try to control everything around you. Knowing well that you cannot control everything, still, you like to do it for adherence of certainty.
Even otherwise, you can control everything, and you achieve perfection, then your life becomes a complete individual. Everything in life you receive as per your plan and prediction. And if this situation prolongs for an extended period, you will become bored. Precisely that is the reason; now leave interest for work for which you are confident that you can perform well.
So, when you want to have certainty, you also like to have a particular variety of variable which must engage you in the midst of uncertainties. You need challenges, competition, and rivalry and suppress which can put you off guard from the certainties.
When you face new challenges from your rivals either in professional or in social circles and receive a certain amount of surprises, you welcome the same. As you receive these new types of situations, you come out from your boredom and become energetic. When you become too much concerned with uncertainty, you will be nervous, and you will mostly fail to achieve the milestone.
At that time, you will again seek certainty. You will toss between the two sides of the coin and sometimes not in a position to decide what to do? You keep toggling between head and tail of the coin causing a roller coaster ride in the system of life. Life then hangs in the-unbalanced position.
The second paradox is you. As a physical being, you are the only one of your type. You cannot be any other person. You will be representing individualistic. You are not common except spiritually. At the spiritual level, you are the same spirit of the life that enlivens you is the same spirit that animates all.
At the level of spiritually, you get attached to the whole world. But when you like to draw a full circle in your life concerning prosperity in all aspects, you have to have both individuality and connectivity. And it is an important factor to become successful in all your endeavors. As an individual, you need to establish your identity.
You need significance. If you don’t find the correct way to feel the importance, you will try to embrace the wrong ways to find this out and quench your urge to feel significant. Some people try to stand out by establishing an extreme path that starts creating problems and it gives necessary identification, but ultimately alienating from others. When you like to prove you’re significant in an altogether different way, you like to develop these ways and establish your styles.
But in this process when you make too much noise, others will focus their attention on you. They may withdraw from you and overlook your company. Precisely that is the reason; people lose the relationship, and they become isolated even they are in the midst of different groups. People will not like your company.
Though you will like to regain the relationship, you will fail to do so. You will feel alone and desperate. Then you will need connectedness. You liked to be cared for and cared about others. You like to be always in the crowd and enjoy the same. Somehow, you will like to come out from the boredom.
To fulfill this need, you join some clubs, groups, and Social Media. Once you establish connected, you will again feel as if you have regained your presence in the crowd. Again the seesaw of being tossed from one need to another need start continuing to your desire.
The third paradox is life is a flow. And you have to achieve this stream of flow through sharing and caring. Both these having and giving are important to complete the cycle and flow of life. This particular paradox is one of the important factors to provide you an impetus in the progress of life.
The need to have and the need to give; the need to spend and consume and the need to utilize and contribute, the need to deposit and accumulation and the need for living and renunciation will be more predominant. Once you develop the conceptual understanding of having and giving, you can fulfill the above activities without much struggle.
Your urge between selfishness and unselfishness will try to grapple you, but you have to establish your authority to choose the correct way and maintain to prolong this need. You must vow to oscillate between being spiritual in giving and bring materialistic in having.
In your all activities, you will be tossed between these two events throughout your life based on these three paradoxes. But out of these pairs of critical needs, if you manage to maintain a few of the activities to fulfill various needs, you will feel that a new life gets emerged. You get a new type of enthusiasm to lead a life, and that would be the secret of your life.
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