Shouldering responsibilities in every sphere with the significant other is not discussed in your wedding cine storm but most definitely it forms the very crux of your marriage. See, all marriages go through ups and downs, fights and make ups and that is healthy. So now if you expect after every fight your husband will transport you to Switzerland within an blink of an eye and he will sing for you, darling you are gravely and grossly mistaken.
Speak and communicate instead of singing sad songs. Open communication helps to negotiate world peace; it is only your marital bliss!!!!
Love between a couple is not only sunshine always, it is their ability to handle storm together. Between a married couple, love is often manifested in form of responsibility. Only another responsible heart should be in place to recognize that expression of love. But yes if you are looking for outstretched arms and cocky looks disappointment is in store for you-big time.
I am a horror movie freak, but each time I watch one I am scared to death to go to washroom at night alone. So in these nights, I have seen my husband meticulously standing outside the door of the washroom for the last 10 years. To me this is love. He knows I am afraid and he conveyed the message through his gesture “I am there, you don’t worry”.
My father in law was in operation theatre, angiography was on and the doctor needed someone to sign the bond. They handed over the pen to my husband, he couldn’t, his hands were shaking badly, I did sign those papers, and it was my way of showing that come hell or high water I am there beside you. And oh well I don’t have to sprinkle water droplets on my husband’s sleeping face from my wet hair every time I come out after bathing to exhibit romance.
Romance becomes sublime after a time, and you have to recognize that. A quick peck on your cheek before leaving for tour or office is romance, waiting for you at the dinner table when you are late from office is romance, seeing you off at the airport while you are flying away for a small holiday with friends is romance, asking you hundred times, “So you are coming back on the 10th?” the day you are leaving for your father’s place is romance, getting your favorite perfume back from overseas meeting is romance.
Confidence on each other is also romance. When a father leaves everything of his child’s education to the mother, and supports all the important decisions she thus takes is confidence which is another side of romance. Urging the kid, who is lost in the gaming zone of a mall, “Come lets go home, Mom is alone.” Is romance, in fact saving the kid from mom’s wrath from time to time is romance too, showing “See how chivalrous even I get.”
So ladies wake up and open your eyes. These small incidents happen to all of us in every household every day, so why are we complaining that marriage has killed the romance? No it has enhanced – manifold. We just have to catch the signal and reciprocate. Love does not go anywhere, only the ways of expressions changes. I can share my example. In 2005 I was more worried which biker jacket will he wear today, it is cold and he has to look handsome, in 2010 when I was married to him with a kid I worried why can’t he stay back at home today, it’s so cold and now in 2018 whenever the man is going for a tour I pack his bag and never forget to check the medicine kit and re check If I have kept all the woolen garments in place. It’s the same him and same me, just the dynamics have changed, Love HAS NOT. We have left those three four days of wedding festivities much behind us and we live our MARRIED life.
