People become sad when they are unhappy. In the midst of distress, people lose calmness fast. They remain isolated, not prefer to talk and show their frustration. Most of us follow this pattern in our day to day living. Precisely that is the reason; we remain sloughed for a long time in the convolute of unhappiness. We never take this as a passing phase in life and continue to remember the incidence of the unhappiness or discuss the same sometimes unnecessarily. Instead of searching for the cause and remedy for the same, we go on discussing the gravity of the sufferings. Ultimately, it will create your sadness more. When you are unhappy, try not to forget your compose. Instead, ascertain the reason without showing any irritation; eliminate the same so that you can bring the situation healthy. Learn to remove the sadness and convert your grief into happiness. How can you do so? By some techniques either forgetting the sad episode or remembering some funny moment. It is easy to say but difficult to perform. But it is possible. Happiness is such a thing that it is beyond quantification. You can feel and can remain in a jovial mood through which you can make pleasant all your surroundings including yourself. It is the most appropriate measure of humanity’s progress and it should be the goal of the life. Many governments in the overseas countries not only put a focus on the economic growth, but they assess and monitor people’s well-being and their happiness. The more you concentrate on this aspect, the more your people grow and as a nation that particular country will also prosper considerably. An under liking factor governs everything in our life. No one does anything without any cause. But all of us desire to be happy in the end. Show me one single person who likes to be unhappy because of his planned actions. Except for a few countries in the world, if you inquire from the people that how much they are happy in their daily lives either they will keep quiet, or they will inform that it is transient. The experience of happiness is temporary. People want this on a long-term basis. Why is it so?
People are happy not because of internal satisfaction and enlivenment. The external factors also play a vital role. For example, after getting a promotion in your job or you have been declared a prize-winning sportsman, or after you bought a house or a car, you will be happy. But when you again face drudgery of life and monotonous life cycle, you will be gloomy. The Bhagwad Gita professes that happiness derived from the senses and objects which lead to sorrow. That is why many billionaires are not happy although they have the comfort of almost all the objects people can think. Most of our happiness falls into the category of fulfillment. The sources of such happiness are the costly gifts, any glamorous purpose, senses, other people’s company or enjoyable circumstances. In one moment, it will come to you, and then suddenly the feeling of acquirement will be over. It will make you despair. The objects cannot provide you happiness on a continuous basis. That type of joy will be for the time being. So, one has to search for the state of bliss and beyond that. Here one does not feel any need to feel any pleasure. You can question how it is possible for a person like me who will not be elated after being promoted to a coveted position? It is merely possible for anyone, but it is not that easy also. One who has attained that blissful state is neither disturbed nor agitated by sorrow or any unwanted incidents nor hunch for happiness. He is not behind to search for pleasure. He is merely in the state of bliss- as per Gita. How one can attain this state? It is gaining full control over one’s emotions and intellect and by doing meditating on the Supreme. From this type of spiritual exercise, one can attain peace of mind which is the essence of happiness to continue for an extended period. If you want to have mental peace, Gita says that you must not look out for the fruits of your actions. Just do the work up to your level of satisfaction and focus on another activity. In reality, we do the opposite. Immediately after acting, we wait eagerly to receive the result.
We also expect that it must bring profit or benefits for us. We cannot tolerate any negative output. Whoever is becoming favorable to renounce the fruit of all actions taking success and failure in the same way and remaining detached during his living, he can be in eternal bliss.
The knowledge about the soul, which is the supreme, mind and the law of karma is beneficial for one to accept the equanimity in loss or gain and success or failure. We know that we are immortal souls playing our different roles on this earth, and we also create our destiny based on our actions and get the results of those performances. But we forget to see ourselves as victims of circumstances, the influence of societies, and the environment we attach ourselves. As per this principle, we accrue the benefits of the deeds performed by us in the past. At the same time, based on our various activities, we create the route of our future – good or bad. Our experiences are the consequences of actions in the present and past lives which are all recorded in the soul. And this determines the quality aspect of our future, of course, in line with our current deeds. People mostly fail or cannot grow much because they don’t like to take the responsibilities for their works. Contrarily, when you consider the trust of your experiences, any adversity or different performance matrix cannot provide you sorrow. As we recognize it to be the fruit of past actions, we only ignore and become happy without bothering much. We contend ourselves that our karmic burden is growing lighter. Similarly, we don’t give any particular thinking about our happiness knowing that whether right or wrong output will not produce any unhappiness anymore. When you reach this level of spiritual mind, it will motivate you to keep doing good as that is the only way to make you happy perpetually. Rest is not of any significance. If you can develop this type of perspective in life and can maintain a balance, you can be an observer without any attachment to life.
Being detached does not mean that you forego all your responsibilities of life or you get away and observe different roles of experience as a passing scene in the drama of life. It allows us to see things as they are and take appropriate decisions. But when you get engrossed, you raise any questions about the existence and the happenings of various things. Do you put multiple question marks about the ideas why are they in that way? You also raise the question about the behavior of people and ask why they behave in a particular way. These sometimes cause dissatisfaction, frustration, irritation, and anger which will lead us to act in the ways which bring gloomy atmosphere. When you live with a constant awareness of being a soul, the child of the supreme soul – you leave the cycle of fun and frolic, pleasure and pain and jealousness and favoring someone. In this way, you slowly reach a state of bliss. Then it has no dependence on any conscious evolution. Happiness is the original nature of the soul which is known as ‘sat chit and Anand Swaroop.’ It is the eternal truth, consciousness, and bliss.
The yogis who experience super sensual pleasure, a spiritual manifestation which is the requirement of different material and physical resources. You need not be a yogi, but by your practice of meditation, and following the suggestions stated above, you can reach the state of bliss of happiness and overcome sadness. Try it out.